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Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Need a laugh? Stay-At-Home Moms vs Working Moms

Sometimes we all need a good laugh, and this article discusses the pros and cons of being a stay at home mom and a working mom. I don't know why there seems to be this great amount of pressure between moms, for those that either breastfeed or formula or for those that stay at home or return to work. I think we all need to just be supportive of each other because we're all doing what's best for our family. I love how this article points out that no matter what decisions we make as a parent we always have some level of doubt or insecurities as to whether or not we are doing the right thing. As a mother, I know how important it is for me to feel like I'm doing what's "best" for my babies, but best does not = perfect, and I'm starting to understand that even when I have to acknowledge that maybe I didn't do the right thing, or missed something another mother might have caught. I can't be perfect. I am doing my best and that's all that matters.

My favorite quote from the essay - For the stay at home moms:

"You irrationally shout, “STAY-AT-HOME MOMS ARE WORKING MOMS” every time you read an article like this and then you shake your head and wonder how you got like this. You feel so lonely that you actually start to miss that bitch at work. Your partner wants to rest after a long day of work and they don’t understand that you need to rest too and they say something like, “Why? What did you do all day? This house is a wreck” and then you have to go to jail for stabbing them in the shoulder. You find that prison is a pleasant break from being a stay-at-home mom. You secretly worry that you’re making the wrong decision."

I remember waiting in my OB's office to "try" and get an IUD (it didn't work out) but 6 weeks after having Jonathan, I remember laying on the exam bed, hands behind my head, eyes closed, thoroughly enjoying this "break" and pretending I was laying on the beach or on a cruise. The nurse came in to apologize for the wait, and I told her "Are you kidding me, take your time, I'm so happy to be baby free right now!" Don't get me wrong, I really do love my kids, and I'm sure in 10, 20 and 50 years from now I'll say these were the best days of my life, but there are definitely moments where I could stab a certain someone for telling me that I didn't have to "work all day" and a little quiet time in a private prison cell would be gladly welcomed ;)

1 comment:

  1. I can so relate! I only have one right now but sometimes he is like an octopus with arms everywhere and a nice quiet prison cell sounds so nice... (As long as I could take a good book with!) My husband doesn't understand what it is like since when Daddy gets home he is much better behaved... GO FIGURE!

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